Is our society still governed by a patriarchal system?
Do we still get discriminated on the professional front in terms of our gender?
Yes, we do!
Sadly and surprisingly, this culture has been, forever imbibed by our society and the only way to get out of is by evolving our thoughts and progressing towards a maturity: maturity level of one’s brains and its thinking process.
In a recent event, Pune’s High Spirits Café faced a turbulence when a case of a sexual assault was been surfaced at it. The allegations were against the owner of the pub Khodu Irani, who supposedly has sexually harassed his employee.
Sheena, the employee audaciously came forward to tell the world that her owner has stigmatized her by publicly shaming and passing gross comments. The girl then took to Twitter to express her thoughts and created a thread of events that spoke about body shaming and slut shaming.
I want High Spirits management to seek professional help. And I want anybody who has endured harassment by mgmt or patrons to be supported.— Sheena (@weeny) October 13, 2017
I want women who work at High Spirits to be valued and treated professionally. Even IF it is a bar.— Sheena (@weeny) October 13, 2017
Oh also High Spirits gives awards for best breasts. Are you fucking kidding me— Sheena (@weeny) October 11, 2017
While we see that women in today’s generation are not anymore confined to taking up any job of their choice; we still witness that, there remains some anticipation on the occurrence of unprecedented events.
Now that women are trying hard to set their foothold on the jobs that are “male-centric”; why do we’ve men to create hindrance on their professional front?
Her initiative triggered few ex-employees that we were treated exactly the same way!
Breaking the silence, Divya, an ex-employee showed her rage by posting a long letter that encompasses some hideous personal experiences.
The last time I met my ex-boss was for a courtesy ‘meeting’ in 2015 — the purpose of which I realised later was just so he could showboat in front of a group of young girls. He tried to belittle me, but I defended myself verbally. When I got up to leave, he gabbed my waist from behind and did a few vigorous thrusts with his pelvis into my buttocks, saying “oh that’s the most action I’ve gotten in six months” (his wife has just birthed a son a few weeks earlier). I felt so violated and dirty afterwards, that I went home and cried.
It was especially confusing when other women (particularly, ones I looked up to) told me it wasn’t a big deal, that this was just ‘joking around’ — and so I conditioned myself to accept this behaviour as the norm. The voice in my head that said it was wrong got pushed further and further into the back of my mind, finally silenced to no more than a whisper.
Now that we expect people to respect the audacity of Sheena for voicing this gruesome act, some people just couldn’t stop babbling.
Now that women in our society are trying to raise themselves up, the patriarchal force is somehow pulling her down.
Why did they go there repeatedly? To get molested? Wasn't once enough to shout? Twitter is old. Why now? Something fishy— Looking for identity (@4closedhearts) October 14, 2017
Men go to pubs to hang out with other boys and get drunk - we still aren't too sure WHY women would want to do the same— kgrao (@kgrao1980) October 11, 2017
But thankfully some prominent faces came out in support of her
I was once on stage at High Spirits when Khodu jumped onto stage and groped me, you know, coz I'm overweight.— Tanmay Bhat (@thetanmay) October 14, 2017
I knew about this behaviour at High Spirits since 2016. Heard about it from friends. I stopped taking shows there-but I never mentioned why.— Aditi (@awryaditi) October 14, 2017
We feel sad when such gruesome acts make news in the headline but it feels terrible when the culprit snoops away amidst the silence of unspoken minds; thankfully this wasn’t the case here!
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