No matter what tensions arise between India and Pakistan, there are people who still believe in forming relationships of love with each other. The hatred between the two was silenced when recently an Indian groom, Karni Singh Sodha married a Pakistani bride, Padmini Rathore.
Surviving in another country after marriage is tough, and this couple has gone through more than its fair share of struggle. They still recall people calling them “Pakistani”, especially the bride. The acceptance still remains an issue in such marriages. Padmini told “At times, when I meet the friends of my husband, many of them still regard me as a ‘mehman’ (guest) since I have come from other land,”
The families believe that love is stronger than the hatred people have for both the countries and in the end, one can’t judge a person from the country he belongs. This is especially seen in the Sindhi and the Rajput communities who have forged relationships across the border for years.
According to a survey every year around 200 such marriages have been reported in the western parts of Rajasthan. In another such case, the Bachchanis of Karachi were finding it difficult to get visas for their India visit. They tweeted about it and the Minister of External Affairs, Sushma Swaraj helped them get the visas.
Naresh Tewani from Jodhpur waited for Priya Bachchani from Pakistan. The families decided to cross the boundaries for marriage and proved that there are no grudges between the common people from the two countries. When asked about the India-Pakistan relationship, Mr. Tewani replied “Though hate rules India-Pakistan ties at the moment, ours will be a relationship rooted in love.”
This practice is very common in communities like Punjabis and Sindhis. Among Rajputs, the Sodha community is famous for cross-border marriages. There is a tradition in this community to not marry within the clan, they are left with this option.
The visas still remain problem for these communities and people end up struggling a lot to attend weddings. The security and allowance has been tightened since the early 1960’s and the Border Security Force rangers accompany villagers from either side of the border to join the ‘baraat’ of such marriages.
Information Source: hindustantimes
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